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How To Overcome Your Past Failures
Determine who is defining your identity
“Everything I try to do fails.”
I told my wife this a couple of years ago. It wasn’t true of course, but I believed it. I went on to list all the things that have failed when I was involved or attempted to do them.
We had just started talking about our dreams and the future. We were talking about some details like our finances and short term goals and I was feeling pretty hopeless. As we dug a little deeper into the state above, we realized something.
I was allowing failure to define my identity.
Somewhere along the way, I had failed. As a result of that failure, I believed that “I” was a failure. I took on an identity of failure. Throughout my personal history, I allowed that identity to rule over my life.
I would go from one thing to the next, feeling like a failure.
Sometimes it was true. I would fail at something and move onto the next thing. Other times, I didn’t fail at all. Sure, I didn’t meet my personal expectations maybe, but I had succeeded at what I initially went out to do.
While we have talked about mindset in the past (link), this is different. This dream killer is something that latches onto you. It slowly…
